Being a mom means, not only, being loving, caring, protective, and a role model, but also being giving, supportive, understanding, and patient.. Being a mom means being strong, brave, adapt to a new life, and learn from all the mistakes along the way.
And some say being a mom is easy!lol :)
COMMUNICATE with your kids and encourage them to do the same. Remember, try not to yell: you are suppose to be talking to them.. I believe they understand better when you have eye contact and speak slowly, so they can understand what you are saying..
After a tantrum and a time-out, make sure you sit down with them to discuss what happened after their fit and why. Remember that well-behaved kids don't happen over night! And they are kids, it is a learning process to them as well.. It is a working progress that takes tons of patience and a strong voice. It may take 100 tries but, eventually they will realize and stop and listen, or think twice before a tantrum.
It also never hurt to ask nicely! (Seriously!) Showing politeness and manners make it seem more a favor than a chore..
Giving choices is also a big habit at my house! Especially, when it come to picking up toys, which is one of the only chores given at this age!- Teaches responsibility and teaches your child to pick up after themselves...
1) Pick up toys! 2) GO to room, sit on bed!~ works at least 50% of the time, after the 7th or 8th trip..~Just wanted to give example of choices..
If crying or throwing a fit is an issue: explain to them that the longer they continue, the more time is added to time-out..
When yelling and screaming for no reason: the tv goes off and a time-out is given. After time out discussion goes as follows:
Why were you screaming and yelling?
Is " " really a reason to be fussing?
So why did i sit you in time out?
What do you think i'm going to do the next time you scream for no reason?
"put me in my room" (quoted from Lilly- my 4 yr old after reading!)
So, are you going to be throwing a fit like that again?...
" no" Why not?
Because i don't want to!
Don't just settle for a sorry. They will say sorry just to get out of being in trouble. FOLLOW through with time-outs! Stay in control & keep your cool. Being a parent takes patience! ~Jess